"She’s a Bad Mama Jama” played in my head while driving to work as one of Hollywood’s hottest TV editors. There, I felt powerful and smart. Beautiful and in control.
But at home, I was half C.R.A.Z.Y.!
Dealing with a husband who was CRAFTY at making the irrational seem rational.
A man who REFUSED to accept responsibility and blamed me for his actions.
A man who “tried to” ASSUME the role of sole decision maker.
A man who “tried to” ZERO in on all my past mistakes.
A man who “tried to” YANK at the foundation of my mental, spiritual and physical stability.
I say “tried to” because, for 3 years, he made me think I was crazy, but then I realized this:
I wasn’t crazy at all …
I was sleeping next to C.R.A.Z.Y. every single night!
You see, I was degraded. Tormented. Hit. Strangled. Nearly killed.
And here’s my truth.
I’m TaJuan “TeeJ” Mercer and the book you’re about to read is not meant to bash my ex-husband. Instead, The 6-Figure Battered Wife is about my reaction to what he did. I’m not sharing details for the sake of being provocative, but rather to educate other women about the various types of abuse.
You see, when most people hear the term “battered wife,” they immediately envision an underprivileged woman with black eyes and bruises who lacks the confidence or motivation to change her world.
But that wasn’t me. I was one of Hollywood’s most sought-after TV editors. I made a lot of money and could have easily hit the restart button without my husband (I ended up walking away and doing just that). So not to be braggadocious – but I had it going on … and still do!
Yet, I was a battered wife, and while I suffered from physical abuse, those scars healed. It was the verbal abuse that bruised my heart and soul. I liken it to ovarian cancer. You don’t know you have it until it’s in the advanced stages. Verbal abuse sneaks up on you after you find yourself three or four years into the relationship, not knowing you’ve been dying a slow death.
My goal is that this book wakes up women who are enduring verbal and emotional abuse, so they get out before it escalates to the bloody noses, black eyes or worse. Because just like with ovarian cancer, early detection gives you a better chance of not just surviving but thriving.